Hey everyone, it's been almost a year since I wrote one of these. I feel they're a bit useless now that I have the monthly newsletters going out. Which, if you aren't signed up for, I highly suggest it (it's on the main page). Last month I sent out a coupon for the store and the month before that I unveiled a few details about the new film I'm working on titled Silver Stars on Red Velvet. Plus, it's much more reliable than following us on twitter. The April one hasn't come out yet so now would be a great time to sign up, it's not like it'll cost you anything.
I have been putting a lot of thought into what I'd like to write about on here though. I recently did an interview for a small independent film website. One of the questions was what advice would I give to other up and coming filmmakers. I rambled on a bit about something because I didn't really know WHAT to say. I think I'm terrible about giving advice but people tend to ask me for advice nonetheless. So, I want to give a different answer. My advice to up and coming filmmakers? Prepare to be alone. This probably sounds absolutely mean spirited and angry but it's true.
I don't say this out of contempt for people in relationships. Heck, if you've managed to find someone good for you...well, good for you! I don't say this because "Boo hoo, I had my heart broken." I say this because it's something I've noticed to be a necessary evil. I have known so many people in my five years in the industry that drop out of it due to a relationship. Making Through the Devil's Eyes was brutal on my relationship to the point that we didn't talk at all during A Final Hit. The relationship went sour because she wanted me to settle down and I refused, I knew that I had to make movies.
Are my movies any good? Who are you asking? Me? I say every film I've ever made is complete and utter trash, but I'm my own worst critic. I have people who like my stuff and people who hate my stuff, so...that. Anyway, sorry to go off on that tangent, back to my point. During one of my films, I worked with a young lady who wanted nothing more than to be an actress. She also had a jealous boyfriend who didn't want her kissing actors. She was planning to go out to Hollywood for a summer and audition her ass off but he didn't want her to. She stayed behind for his sake and has slowly pulled out of the industry.
On another film, I worked with a VERY talented actor who disagreed that it's better to stay alone. He wanted someone so bad, to the point that he married the first chick to say yes. He pulled out of acting and went back to school. I'm sure many of you reading this are like "That's great, at least he's not a loser like you!" It would be great, if he was happy with his life. He told me a few months back that he's not happy with his marriage and laments not sticking with acting.
I try to keep in contact with everyone I've ever worked with because I enjoy talking to them. I enjoy knowing how they're doing. I don't expect everyone to stick with this. Some people just do it as a one off and go live productive lives. Those are not the people that my advice is directed towards. I'm talking about the people that WANT to stick with this but their loneliness gets to them.
I know another director who used to think I was just bitter for saying that it's better to stay alone. He was in a relationship for a while but she wanted more commitment from him and he wanted to stick to making films. She left him and now he's realizing that maybe he is better off alone.
My final story is not even about film. It's about my buddy who is running his own business. For a long time he thought I was crazy for telling him, "Dude, unless you can find someone who can tolerate all the BS, you should just remain single." He was convinced that I was just being a weirdo and shunning him for wanting someone. Two years later he asked me, "why do girls not understand all the stress that goes with running a business?" I simply told him, "Dude, it's not just chicks. It's people in general. They don't understand all the sacrifice that comes with getting a business of the ground. Most people just don't want to deal with it."
I'm not telling about these people to air their dirty laundry. Heck, maybe they aren't even real stories. Maybe I made them up to make a point. Maybe they are real but I'm not giving out names because I don't want you, the reader, to know the people I'm addressing. Either way, that is what my advice is to anyone aspiring to do something more with their life. Appreciate your loneliness.